Parents suspect that jobless 18-year-old daughter is sabotaging interviews to stay unemployed, they promise to stop paying for her phone unless she starts helping out around the house: 'She isn't taking it serious'

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    Jobless18 year old daughter refuses to help around the house

    Teen girl laying on a carpet and gazing with a bored expression at her cellphone
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    My daughter is 18, almost 19, was working just a few hours each week during sophomore year and junior year. I told her to
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    save 80%, spend 20%. She spent it all. Her grades were slipping so she asked if she could quit to focus on her senior year, I said sure.
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    Senior year is expensive and we knew that from the start, but she chose a $1600 gown for prom that needed an additional 400 in alterations, no problem. It's a
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    memorable tradition and she didn't go to junior prom, so sure we paid for whatever she wanted. Wish she could have helped, but she had a great time - it was worth every dime.
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    A line of women in formal dresses
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    However, I told her in April to start looking for a job and tell them she only wanted part time for now and would be able to work full
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    time in the summer. Graduation comes up and she hasn't even applied for a job anywhere yet, then she drops the "I don't want to go to college" on us. Ok, but
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    you better get a job. She wants so many things and I make her pay for some of it, but she's out of pocket money and now it's nearly September and she hasn't had
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    luck finding a job. She gave an attitude when one of the phone interviewers was 3 minutes late, her responses are very heavily
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    laden with arrogance, like "I already put that on the application" when one asked what hours she could work.
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    She swears she isn't purposely sabotaging the interviews, but from my perspective she absolutely is.
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    Interviewer reviewing someone's resume
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    So step-dad said, September 1st we are no longer paying for her phone. She can start doing work around the house to earn money to pay her own bills. She already
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    has one weekend chore - the bathroom, and one nightly chore - the dishes. The bathroom is shared with her little sister, so she only cleans the mess she
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    makes and tells her sister to clean up her mess. She doesn't scrub the toilet or shower, the sink or countertops. She just puts away her make up and calls it
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    clean. Same with the dishes - stick it in the dishwasher and call it clean. Stuff comes out of the dish washer with food still on it.
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    A person washing a single dish over a sink
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    I don't know what do to, she isn't taking it serious, she doesn't even care that she won't have her phone. That whole idea doesn't
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    make sense to me because that is the number she put for potential jobs to call her back on.
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    Maybe make her volunteer at homeless shelters or food banks so she can see what hardship is like?
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    CautiousCattle9681 She doesn't care that she won't have her phone because she doesn't believe you'll actually take it. You're still giving her pocket money, you bought her a
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    dress that costs as much as some people's rent. Stop spoiling her. She gets 3 meals per day/basic toiletries. Nothing more. If she wants more she can work for it.
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    Murmurmira It sounds like there is some / a lot of enabling going on. I would laugh my daughter out of the room if she asked for a 2000 bucks prom dress. 99.9999% of the world pays less for a wedding dress, let alone a high school party.
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    The entitlement to even dare ask that is in-sane. Which tells me you guys enable, indulge and spoil her a lot.
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    Sparkling DramaLlama Right? I only went to my junior prom, not senior, but my dress was $200, shoes were $80, and I forget the ticket price. Went in
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    a group with friends, one of whom had an aunt who drove a limo, I think we each chipped like $50 bucks in for her time and gas.
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    My daughter isn't prom age yet, but she and I are probably going to Macy's.
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    RealityAcrobatic7357 Sounds like she doesn't care because she has never been held accountable. Cautionary tale my mom did this with my sister she's now 31 and still at home and no job.
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    Suspicious-Maize4496 Recently my oldest asked why he couldn't have something, and I told him its because I love you.

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